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"A Cookbook for a Lifetime of Sharing"
We have chosen to create a cookbook around the stages or seasons of life. We are creating themed menus for: (1) The Early Years- simple meals for young kids (2) Teenage Wonderland - recipes teens can try, especially comfort food (3) Growing Up with Holidays - family treasured recipes for each holiday (4) College Connections - easy cooking ideas for young adults (5) Life Together - romantic dinners (6) Family Time - classic "family night" menus for all ages (7) Country Cuisines at Home - Chinese, Italian, Greek, Croatian menus to try in your kitchen (8) Generations of Family & Friend Adventures - crowd pleasing menus for the big gatherings (9)Haute Cuisine - ideas from great Chefs (THANKS) (10) Our Family Recipes - your chapter to personalizefor your family
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Recipes From the Heart
Every time you open the cookbook or share a meal, its an opportunity to raise awareness on the importance of communication about teen depression and the tragedy of suicide. Please send us your favorite original recipe (and dedicate it to your loved one) or search in our database of recipes from well-known chefs or other family tested recipes of culinary adventure. Check back for information on our cookbook. Download the Recipe Form and e-mail your recipe and story of memorial to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Cookbook Dedication. Five
years ago, I
had that dreaded call from my daughter's middle school - I needed to come
down and pick her up because she was cutting herself.I had NO idea.I was
shocked, scared, embarrassed and confused.I
never heard of this and I didn't know what to do.The
school recommended some good
outside psychologists and we started the process of healing.
This weekend, I took
my daughter up to Berkeley, where she will be attending next fall
journalism or psychology.She is
currently a high school senior, a triple varsity athlete (captain of two
those sports), selected as "scholar athlete of the year", has
taken nine Advanced Placement classes, has a GPA of 4.2 and was granted
admission to some of the most selective Universities in the country.All of this, in spite of a very
difficult Freshman year.I want to
share with you our journey.
I cannot take the
credit of orchestrating the amazing "turn around" in my daughter.I don't know if I can even tell you
exactly how it all occurred, but I can tell you that my very dear friend
then boss) Troy and his family's struggle was a main reason I survived.
As my daughter and I were
going through what I learned to be a very common problem of depression
middle/high school students, I felt I was drifting through a fog.I wondered if other people could see it
or sense it just by looking at me.By chance one day, while my boss Troy and I were waiting for a
to begin, I asked him for some advice.I don't know why I suddenly felt I could talk about it or why
him, but I
think it was because we weren't really friends, just long time
we lived 3000 miles apart.I
explained my problems with my daughter and told him that I was thinking about
her out of her current school in hopes of helping change things.I remembered that he had a daughter,
Rachel, a couple years older than Casey, and that they had recently
moved so I
asked him if he thought it would help.So began our conversation...
I learned that he
was struggling with parenting Rachel, that she had suffered from
was cutting and had attempted suicide.Changing schools seemed to exacerbate the problems.Over the year, talking to Troy helped
me work through issues with Casey.Our psychologist was very helpful, in a detached professional
leaning on Troy helped me feel like I was a normal parent (not perfect,
alone).I also felt more
comfortable bringing in Casey's Dad and step-Mom to the conversation and
working through ideas as a team, because now I could talk about it.In the end, Casey and I, her Dad and
step-mom worked through a plan that we all felt comfortable with.The four of us grew close over time,
and although it is still difficult to talk about that time, we all know
important that communication is with others.And,
you know how our story turned out years later.I
am so grateful for Troy having the
guts to share with me his thoughts and fears.It
is because I walked in his footsteps and experiences that
I could make it.Just one
conversation started so many others and started to break down the fear
Troy and Rachel, they didn't have the benefit of parents helping them or
Rachel died by suicide in 2007 and everyone misses her bubbly
smile.I can't help but
wonder how things might have been different for them if someone took the
(and risk) to share.
This cookbook is
dedicated to a lifetime of sharing...one conversation at a time.I hope that society will learn that
depression and mental illnesses are just as real (and common) as breast
a topic that was taboo not that many years ago.Imagine
a future when there are programs in middle school,
high school and college to raise awareness and help kids feel safe and
alone...to help turn around their outlook and support them during
times.Many schools are afraid
that by raising this topic, they will some how encourage it - as if kids
to feel so helpless.With my own
three children, I have learned that by talking about depression, how
is for kids to go through it at some point and how they can help their
we have become a strong family.I
can't change the school policy (yet) but maybe we can all do something
own way to reach kids ages 11- 25 through existing programs like girl/boy
or new school programs like "activeminds.org"
for college kids but push it down to middle/high school.We need to find ways to start earlier
and bolder in reaching out to young people.
At our home, we now
hold "Foods-4-Thought" dinners where we pick a menu, invite a few
just enjoy the night.Yes, it can
be awkward when I first explain to the participants, especially the
Foods-4-Thought is all about and how we want to raise awareness of
depression.But soon we are
engrossed in creating recipes and theme meal ideas or telling stories of
traditions or what a particular holiday is like in our respective homes.Enjoy the fruits of our labor
here in these pages and feel free to create your own moments.....one
at a time.
E-mail us your recipe at email@example.com or submit your favorite original recipe here and dedicate it to someone you love